Growing older definitely doesn't make us wiser. I know you've all figured this out and wondering why you should read this post....I get it. But ever wondered why that is?
I think we're not getting wiser because our brains are functioning at greater efficiency in our 20s and thinking makes us stupid. You see, we've all got a hidden Freud within us and we analyse, psychoanalyse, pre-guess, post-guess and dissect everything in our daily lives. We have reasons for why a friend didn't call us, we have reasons for why our colleague was pissed off today, we have reasons for why our parents forgot our birthday and we have reasons for everything that is actually quite innocent.
We've forgotten to forgive and forget. We've simply forgotten to smile and let it go. An apology is never a simple apology anymore...we take our time, we sulk, we emotionally gauge how sincere the apology was and by the time we decide to forgive someone...it's too late. It's too late for there not be any scars coz you see the other person is an adult as well who isn't going to let go easily. Grrrr!
It was so simple when we were kids...so peaceful..so beautiful...we were so wise. It's like we come into the world, grow older and lose our wisdom in our eternal search to find it. As kids, as teens...if someone pushes you down, you either push them down too and laugh about it, or cry and run to momma and forget about it, or complain to your teach and forget about it, or simply laugh it off...it goes away quickly and funnily enough you're back at the same playground the next day playing with the same person...accepting them who they are and everything in the world is perfect! Even as teens...we cry, we judge, we shout...but ultimately we work it out...at least most of the times. Why was it so easy to forgive and forget then? How come we just overlooked not being waved at or invited to a party? I'm not saying that was right...all I'm saying is that that was happier and simpler.
Doesn't that make it wise?
As adults we have to take the responsibility for our actions. if you push me down when I was a kid I would brush it off but as a grown up I would wonder if there was a reason to do that because we don't act out without reasoning. thats part of growing up isn't it? To know that every action has a repercussion. but yeah... it would def make life simpler if we could just be simple :)
ReplyDeleteInteresting post again :). I would agree to some level with you and maybe not at another.
ReplyDeleteDo we get wiser with age? Maybe..maybe not. It does make us more experienced, but then again we sometimes have a unilateral line of thought for situations we face.
Do we forgive and forget each and everything? Doesnt it depend on the problem at hand? I have personally noticed that sometimes you are just taken for granted everytime you forgive n forget...cant generalize it. But yeah it happens. But like you said, if both sides truly are sorry about what happened, I don’t see a reason why grudges should exist.
The part of fighting with friends and then making up and all the other instances made sense at that time probably because both ends were willin to let go. But as we grow older, I guess even if one side wants to forget, the other side doesnt want to let go and that complicates things.
But yes I do agree that things were much more simpler n happpier before..lesser expectations...more fun...
@Anu: I don't agree. Every action does not have a reasoning behind it...it could be something simple like the other person did not hear you, simply forgot oetc There isn't always a deep seated complicated or malicious reson behind actions. That's the flaw...
ReplyDeleteWatching spaghetti westerns might have something to do with it. Clint Eastwood never forgave anyone, not even for insulting his mule.
ReplyDelete@GB: Lol...ah yes. Now to come to think of it why do I find unforgiving men sexy? Sigh! :P
ReplyDeleteOur experiences make us. Whether you're young or old, it doesn't matter. Look at people who haven't had the childhood experiences that we have had, the opportunities, the exposure. Their tough lives makes the harder to forgive even when they are young.
ReplyDeleteAnd that leads to what they grow up to be. I feel its not about being young or old, it's bout our experiences. That make us wise or otherwise ;).